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Loving Men | It Starts With Me

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It Starts With Me: Self-Love and Self-Care

A three-night Loving Men residential event: Friday 14 - Monday 17 September 2018
Poulstone Court, Herefordshire
with Dennis Carney and Tim Foskett

UPDATE: Only 2 places remain vacant, both either camping or non-resident

It Starts With Me is a deep dive into crafting a loving relationship with yourself - from which emanates all other loving relationships.

When we relate well to ourselves - with affection, curiosity, kindness, appropriate boundaries and self-challenge when needed - we find a positive alignment inside ourselves. Life is no longer a tortured journey of self-criticism - it becomes more fun, more exciting and more vivid. People who love and care about themselves are more attractive to others, and more able to love others - they already know something about how to love.

Cultivating this kind of relationship may be a life long task .... but a worthwhile one, especially if you want to be intimate with others.

Working with up to 40 men, we'll use a variety of exercises to understand the dynamics and challenges of cultivating a truly loving relationship with yourself. We'll make connections, experiment, reflect and play. There'll be free time each day to explore the grounds and stunning local countryside.

Here's more information about   getting the most from a Loving Men event.

Whether you're single or in a relationship, come and join us for a fabulous four-day event. If you're ready to change gear in your relationship with yourself - this is a great place to start.

Loving Men actively welcomes gay, bi and queer men, trans men and non-binary people who are attracted to men.


Our venue for It Starts With Me is the beautiful   Poulstone Court  in Herefordshire, set in the Wye valley, an area of outstanding natural beauty. It is accessible from the Midlands and the South of England. Approximately 3 hours drive from London and 4 hours on public transport.

Set in beautiful grounds and close to a river with swimming opportunities, the views from all parts of the house are stunning- providing an uninterrupted vista of the rolling Wye valley landscape.

The full address is: Poulstone Court, Kings Caple, Herefordshire HR1 4UA


Accommodation is in twin, triple and dorm rooms. Some camping spots are also available. Another option is to stay locally in a Bed & Breakfast. You are responsible for booking and funding this yourself.
As the event nears, the full amount is due at the time of booking, unless other arrangements are agreed.

  • Dormitory Rooms (4/5 Beds): FULLY BOOKED
  • Triple Rooms: FULLY BOOKED
  • Twin Rooms: FULLY BOOKED
  • Camping: £395
  • External B&B Place: £395 + cost for B&B accommodation you book for yourself

Local B&Bs

  • Red Rail Farm, Hoarwithy, Hereford HR2 6QT: 01432 840432
  • Wiggles Brook Gipsy B&B, 2 Brookside Cottages, Hoarwithy HR2 6QJ: 01432 840575
  • The Old Mill, Hoarwithy, Hereford HR2 6QH: 01432 840602

Arrival and Departure

You are welcome to arrive between 4:00 and 6:00 pm on Friday 14 September. We will start with an introductory session after supper. We will depart on Monday 17 at 4:00 pm.
As far as possible, please arrange your transport to and from Poulstone to coincide with the event start and finish times.


The menu at Poulstone is vegetarian, delicious and plentiful. The recipes have been developed over a period of twenty-five years. They are hugely popular, so much so that Poulstone has now its own recipe book. Poulstone also caters for vegan and gluten free diets.


You may book on-line. Please use the links in the footer of the page to review our Terms & Conditions, then make a booking in our on-line store. You can secure your place with a £150 deposit, then we will contact you about the balance.

For more information or if you would like to join a Waiting List (in case of late cancellation), please    email Peter   or    request a call-back.


I want to do to you what Spring does to the Cherry trees
Pablo Neruda (in Every Day You Play)

Residential Events

Non-residential Events

Booking, deposits, final payments and cancellation

  • the standard deposit is £150

  • your balance is due 6 weeks before the start of the event

  • your place and deposit may be forfeited if we do not receive your balance 4 weeks before the start of the event

  • if you cancel 6 weeks or more before the event, we will return your deposit, less a £30 contribution to administrative costs

  • if you cancel between 2 and 6 weeks before the event, we will refund your payment for the event, minus the £150 deposit

  • if you cancel within 14 days of the start of the event, Loving Men reserve the right to retain your full fee

  • Booking, payments and cancellation

  • fees are payable in full at the time of booking

  • if you cancel your place 6 weeks or more before the event, we will return your fee, less a £30 contribution to administrative costs

  • if you cancel between 2 and 6 weeks before the event, we will return 50% of your fee

  • if you cancel within 14 days of the start of the event, Loving Men reserve the right to retain your full fee

  • Insurance

    For all events, Loving Men advise you to take out travel insurance to cover yourself for illness, emergency or cancellation


    Conduct at Events

    To ensure your own and others' welfare, Loving Men asks you to:

  • be responsible for your own safety and exercise due care for yourself throughout the event

  • be respectful towards others and of their personal boundaries

  • take care of the venue and equipment, and respect the boundaries of the host organisation